Five Foundations To Creating A Vibrant Life After Loss
To help you on your healing journey and overcome some of the challenges you face, I have created a free, five day mini series to help you re-build, re-discover and re-focus so you can move towards creating a life you love with more clarity and confidence whilst also reducing overwhelm.
Providing emotional and practical support through grief and loss coaching
I’m Karen Sutton. I’m one of the UK’s first break-up and bereavement coaches. I provide emotional and practical support to anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one, or going through a separation. Through my own experiences with loss, I understand how difficult it is, trying to navigate your way through these traumatic life events. That’s why I’m passionate about helping you to look after yourself, feel more positive, take back control, and to build the life you desire
Together, we can create ongoing, sustainable growth and change so that you can move forward confidently in your own way towards a new and thriving future.
Please read the story of why I decided to become a grief and loss coach, and find out more about the services I’ll be offering.
On Sunday 11th September 2016 our world fell apart. I lost my husband, and my children lost their dad. Simon was a strong, witty, loyal man full of integrity. He was a wonderful father, husband, son, brother and friend.
The shock and devastation left us in complete turmoil. I didn’t know how life would continue – or even if I wanted it to sometimes. It just felt too hard and utterly impossible. Through all of this I had to try and comprehend what had happened, figure out how best to support my grieving children and to get up every morning and face a life I hadn’t planned nor wanted. There was suddenly a gaping hole in my life. The pain, the sadness and the despair were overwhelming, physically and emotionally. I was scared, vulnerable and also lonely.
Minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day we kept going, rebuilding our new lives as a three. We laughed and we cried. We fought and we loved. I felt invincible one minute and then on my knees the next. Grief is a rollercoaster ride, and it is exhausting. However, from the minute Simon died, I made a vow that this would not define mine or my childrens’ lives in a negative way forever. We were not going to be victims. It was now my job to make sure that we weren’t just okay, but that we were able to flourish.
I initially had counselling to help me make sense of my emotions, but I found I needed something more, something different – something to help me move forward with my life. So, I signed up with a life coach. This was the best decision I ever made. I worked on my mindset, values, gratitude, stress, diet, exercise, sleep…….. the list goes on. I’ve had to learn not to quit when things get tough, to develop a ‘can do’ attitude, to worry less about what others think of me and to not fight the inevitable change to my life that I feared so much.
I was holding myself back in so many ways. Ultimately, I’ve gained clarity, purpose and a love of life again. I still miss Simon like nothing else on earth, but i’ve built a life around his loss. I know that the hurt will never go away, but that it’s now a part of me and my new life – and that’s ok. Over the last three years, I’ve learned so much about myself and I’ve realised I’m capable of so much more than I dreamed possible.
Now, 3 years down the line, I have trained as a grief and loss coach, specialising in bereavement and divorce. It is now my passion to help others find their new way, gain clarity, overcome fears, build confidence and to create a life they desire. I want to help people see that even though they have been through hell, they have it within them to move forward in a positive way, identifying and fulfilling their ambitions.
It all just starts with a decision!
Is Grief and Loss Coaching Right For You?
You might want to consider grief and loss coaching if you are:
- Dealing with the loss of a loved one
- Working through or considering the end of a relationship
- Feeling unable to cope with grief or loss
- Struggling to find meaning following bereavement or divorce
- Unable to gain clarity on life, decision-making and purpose
- Struggling with loss of confidence
- Dealing with loss of self-identity
If you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one, you might want to consider bereavement coaching. When the worst thing imaginable happens, you’re left feeling absolutely lost. You’ll be trying to process a lot of conflicting emotions, balancing wanted (and lots of unwanted) advice, trying to keep up relationships and responsibilities, all while feeling like you don’t know how to carry on. – Just like I was.
As your grief and loss coach, I’ll provide a supportive, non-judgemental space for you to come and talk, process, understand and ultimately to find a way to move forward. It’s not about forgetting, because you’ll never forget what’s happened. But it’s about learning how to build a life around your grief. Together, we’ll look at all areas of your life – physical, emotional, practical and more. We’ll work out what’s important to you, what you want to achieve, and how you can gradually learn to fall in love with life again.
You could just need an hour of bereavement coaching to help you gain clarity on one particular issue, or you could come for a year to unpick and rebuild every aspect of your life. But ultimately, bereavement coaching is about processing where you are now, finding out where you want to be, and working out how to get there.
Divorce and breakup coaching can support you wherever you are in your breakup journey – Whether you are considering a breakup, going through a breakup or dealing with the aftermath of a breakup.
Many of us build our identities around our romantic relationships, especially if these relationships have lasted most of our lives. And when a relationship breaks down, this identity can be shattered. It can be really difficult to pick up the pieces emotionally, to deal with everything practically, and to find out who you are after the dust settles.
Divorce coaching gives you the support needed to process and work through complex situations such as:
- Understanding when to end a relationship
- Managing family, in-law and ex-partner relationships
- Developing confidence, clarity and purpose
- Post-divorce romance and dating
Much like bereavement coaching, divorce coaching aims to help you process where you are now, find out where you want to be, and work out the steps you need to take to get there. This could be on a small scale, tackling one or two minor issues, or it could be a long-term process, working on more complicated, deep-seated challenges.
Let me help you
If anything resonates with you please complete the form to tell me more about your current situation to see if I can help you.